I believe all human action, all of it, has motives behind it,
I dont believe there is any thing such as unselfish acts
even mother terisa did it because it felt good to her and I've read that in the last few years of her life she too gave up, I found that out when I was in depression and was reading james allens on unselfishness , did not find that overly useful or making sense
what made sense was Victors blog post about being a go-getter
There is no such thing as doing something for another person in love ,to have loved is a reward in itself ,as says napoleon hill on youtube, you do it because you like to do it and/or you like what the result of doing it would be.
There are some fundamental/first motives,basic motives ,these are common to all human beings
And the first principle states that these basic motives exist as basic human nature
Do this !:
think about with 2-3 examples:
do want to live like that?/ do you want more of these in your life??
now think about all the times you were happy
do you want less of those good things/situations? ? dont you want to live like that?have more of that?
the answer is that
thats it
PART A
therefore you and I agree on this ^^
and are willing to make this the centralizing purpose of our actions:
definition of situations by example
you holding a girl you like is a situation/circumstance/event in your life
you feeling bad is a situation
you having bad stomach is a situation
you feeling awesome is a situation
but
PART B
the next step is to define and get clear about these situations so that we can do some aboot it
SO THATS WHY Setthing goals and working towards them is IMPORTANT
think and decide what happiness means to you ? what will make you happy and what do you dont want more of what leads to crap that you dont like in your life and how to avoid/avert it.
i was compremising and not saying that I want more food to my home-stay family and hiding from them that I was taking food behind their back, because my head was messed up and my action was based on false information that it is bad to eat more than what is given to you by your h-stay parents and that you must not say that the food is bad and you dont like it
bs
thats a lie and I lied to myself and I lied to them and I lied to
I dont believe there is any thing such as unselfish acts
even mother terisa did it because it felt good to her and I've read that in the last few years of her life she too gave up, I found that out when I was in depression and was reading james allens on unselfishness , did not find that overly useful or making sense
what made sense was Victors blog post about being a go-getter
There is no such thing as doing something for another person in love ,to have loved is a reward in itself ,as says napoleon hill on youtube, you do it because you like to do it and/or you like what the result of doing it would be.
There are some fundamental/first motives,basic motives ,these are common to all human beings
And the first principle states that these basic motives exist as basic human nature
Do this !:
think about with 2-3 examples:
- situations you dont like
- people you dont like
- things that you dont like in your life
- circumstances that you dont like
- think about times when you are unhealthy,and when your head is aching or your stomach is experiencing problems and giving you pain
- think about when you pass it out in your dark room at night and its all over you and your room dirty and bad.. how do you feel?
- think about school when your not enjoying the class at all and dont care about what is being taught
- think about times in your life when you feel your life is just routine and a circle jerk of practically consumerism and you are trying to distract yourself away from thinking about how bad/out of control your life is.
- think about the things that you promised yourself you would do but did not do
- think about money - the times when you had none
- noises that you dont like
do want to live like that?/ do you want more of these in your life??
now think about all the times you were happy
- think about a situation you liked
- think about people you like
- think about the tings that you like
- think about what you would like to work on if money wasn't a problem at all
- think about what you would be doing if you had earned 3 billion US dollars
- think of all the times when you were feeling great.
- think of situations that you like
- think about the times when you did something and felt good about being yourself
- think about how life would be if you could do what you wanted to do and were not controlled by expectations of your parents or anyone
- think about music you like eg for me music i like
- thing of all the good things in your life
do you want less of those good things/situations? ? dont you want to live like that?have more of that?
the answer is that
- no you dont want situations in your life that you dont like
- and you want more of the things,situations, and music that you like.
thats it
PART A
therefore you and I agree on this ^^
and are willing to make this the centralizing purpose of our actions:
- any thing we will do will be to avoid/remove/diminish stuff that we seriously dont like
- and will be to get more of things/situations/music/events that you seriously like and care about
definition of situations by example
you holding a girl you like is a situation/circumstance/event in your life
you feeling bad is a situation
you having bad stomach is a situation
you feeling awesome is a situation
but
PART B
the next step is to define and get clear about these situations so that we can do some aboot it
SO THATS WHY Setthing goals and working towards them is IMPORTANT
think and decide what happiness means to you ? what will make you happy and what do you dont want more of what leads to crap that you dont like in your life and how to avoid/avert it.
i was compremising and not saying that I want more food to my home-stay family and hiding from them that I was taking food behind their back, because my head was messed up and my action was based on false information that it is bad to eat more than what is given to you by your h-stay parents and that you must not say that the food is bad and you dont like it
bs
thats a lie and I lied to myself and I lied to them and I lied to